7 best self-help books to read at any age (Part Two)

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Table of Content

  • Introduction
  • 1.(#4) How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
    • Part One: Fundamental Techniques in Handling People.
    • Part Two: Six Ways to Make People Like You.
    • Part Three: How to Win People To Your Way of Thinking.
    • Part Four: Be a Leader: How to Change People.
    1. (#5) Rich Dad Poor Dad: What The Rich Teach Their Kids About Money - That The Poor And Middle Class Do Not! by Robert T. Kiyosaki
    • Chapter 1: The Rich Don’t Work for Money
    • Chapter 2: Why Teach Financial Literacy?
    • Chapter 3: Mind Your Own Business
    • Chapter 4: The History of Taxes and the Power of Corporations
    • Chapter 5: The Rich Invent Money
    • Chapter 6: Work to Learn – Don’t Work for Money
    1. (#6) The Fountainhead Novel by Ayn Rand.
    1. (#7) Atlas Shrugged Novel by Ayn Rand.
  • Bonus book: Financial Freedom: A Proven Path to All the Money You Will Ever Need by Grant Sabatier
  • Conclusion.

Introduction

In Part two, we continue our list of best self-improvement books. This post is different from the previous one, for two reasons, the first is, it contains a mix of non-fiction and fiction books. and the second is, we added some personal finance books, that we think would be of great value to our reader.

there is a saying that goes like this “you are what you eat”, and also It should be one for reading, it can be something like, ” you are what you read”. If good food is good for your health, the same applies when it comes to self-improvement and self-growth. The more you read good books the better you would become.

And for that reason, we want this list to be a continuation to the previous one, which is of big importance in the journey of becoming a better you.

1. (#4) How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.

Dale Carnegie (spelled Carnagey) was passionate about public speaking from his early high-school years, after he graduated college, he worked as a salesman for various companies.

After saving enough money he enrolled in an acting Academy in NYC. he quickly found that acting was not for him.

Shortly after that, he decided to pursue his passion for public speaking, he started teaching in NYC, which he made a huge success, soon he was earning about $500 per week, (which is $12000 in today’s money).

this book is decades’ result of practical knowledge. divided to four parts:

  • Fundamental Techniques in Handling People.
  • Six Ways to Make People Like You.
  • How to Win People To Your Way of Thinking.
  • Be a Leader: How to Change People.

Part One: Fundamental Techniques in Handling People.

Because of the book’s length, we’ll give an overview of one principle in every part, for a good overview of the rest of the principles, you can read the Hubspot article about the book summary

Principle 1: Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain

If we try to understand the reasons that make people act the way they do, or we try to be in their shoes. It’s far better than judging or criticizing. As the author put in his book :

Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance, and kindness. “To know all is to forgive all.” As Dr. Johnson said: “God himself, sir, does not propose to judge a man until the end of his days.” Why should you and I? - Dale Carnegie

People won’t listen to you, even if you have the best advice, if you start by criticizing them. So instead start by providing a good feedback and try to sandwich your criticism between two good things.

Part Two: Six Ways to Make People Like You.

Principle 1: Become genuinely interested in other people

It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring - Adler

being genuinely interested in other people makes establishing healthy relationships much easier. Take a look at the history of great leaders, you’ll find that most of them would give their undivided attention to whoever is talking, without any regard to the person’s status.

But you might be asking yourself, what indicates that a person is genuinely interested in another person? that is thought paying attention to the details.

Part Three: How to Win People To Your Way of Thinking.

Principle 1: The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.

We can observe the effectiveness of this principle in our previous conversations with people close to us, when someone starts an argument with you, you automatically turn on the defensive shield, and try to stand for your ideas or beliefs. You know for a fact that at the end your friend or colleague will be upset, and perhaps angry because both of you didn’t come to mutual grouds.

Now imagine, if instead of you trying to win the argument, you focus your effort on understanding what the other is trying to communicate and try to relate with him. this was you may lose the argument, but you win a friend instead.

Here are some practical steps you can follow in other to avoid being in an argument :

  • Distrust your first instinctive impression;
  • Control your temper;
  • Listen first;
  • Look for areas of agreement;
  • Be honest;
  • … etc;

Part Four: Be a Leader: How to Change People.

Principle 1: Begin with praise and honest appreciation.

The sandwich method is a method you use when there is a need for raising attention to a colleague’s, friend’s, or a relative error.

In the sandwich method, you start with a positive comment, which is like a slice of bread. Next come the suggestions for improvement, which are more like the meat and veggies in the sandwich. Finally, you try to close with some positive, encouraging comments, which are like the other slice of bread - www.noslangues-ourlanguages.gc.ca

This principle is similar to the sandwish method above, but in much details and richer examples…

Finally, you can get the audiobook free from Amazon, or the hard copy.

2. (#5) Rich Dad Poor Dad: What The Rich Teach Their Kids About Money - That The Poor And Middle Class Do Not! by Robert T. Kiyosaki

The title itself is enough to give you a glimpse of what the book is about, it has been written in a simple language, which makes the ideas in the book easy to understand.

The author starts by describing the academic life of each of his dads, and also their careers, and how they are different, which is what helped him to build a solid understanding of what getting rich takes.

the book is 6 chapters long, we’ll take a quick overview on each one of these chapters :

Chapter 1: The Rich Don’t Work for Money

The author asked his dad about how to get rich, and his dad answers him with the following:

“Well, Son…,” he began slowly. “If you want to be rich, you have to learn to make money.” - Rich Dad Poor Dad.

A few days later, he took his dad’s advice literally, which is printing money. it’s is a fun thing for a kid to do, but a felony for an adult.

Shortly after that, the author begins his lifelong journey of never working for money, and working to learn instead. and he soon would get the knowledge needed for that from The Rich Dad.

Chapter 2: Why Teach Financial Literacy?

In this chapter Robert T. Kiyosaki gives the reader a clear picture of the difference between poor, middle-class, and rich spending and investing habits, which are like the following :

1. The Poor

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the cash-flow pattern of a poor person

2. The middle-class

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the cash-flow pattern of a person in the middle class

3. The Rich

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the cash-flow pattern of a rich person

Chapter 3: Mind Your Own Business

Start minding your own business. Keep your daytime job, but start buying real assets, not liabilities. - Robert T. Kiyosaki - Rich Dad Poor Dad

Chapter 4: The History of Taxes and the Power of Corporations

Each dollar in my asset column was a great employee, working hard to make more employees and buy the boss a new Porsche. - Robert T. Kiyosaki - Rich Dad Poor Dad

Chapter 5: The Rich Invent Money

It is not gambling if you know what you’re doing. It is gambling if you’re just throwing money into a deal and praying. - Robert T. Kiyosaki - Rich Dad Poor Dad

Chapter 6: Work to Learn – Don’t Work for Money

Job security meant everything to my educated dad. Learning meant everything to my rich dad. - Robert T. Kiyosaki - Rich Dad Poor Dad

This was a quick overview of what the book is about, for a good summary head to our friends at roofstock.

Finally, for a free Audiobook visit the Amazon link, there also you can order the paper back.

3. (#6) The Fountainhead Novel by Ayn Rand.

This modern classic is a masterpiece of fiction and philosophy. The story begins with Howard Roark, a revolutionary architect, Dominique Francon, a goddess. and how they meet, but this is not what the story is about. The novel is about something much bigger, and I’ll leave that for you to discover.

You can check the score of this classic and some feedback from the people who read it on Goodreads. And for the Audio version of this book, you can find it for free through the Amazon link. but if you prefer paperback books, you can find a paperback edition on Amazon as well.

4. (#7) Atlas Shrugged Novel by Ayn Rand

Yes, another novel by the same author. in which she writes beautifully about man’s battle against mediocrity.

If there is a close version to a Tomorrowland, it would be the Tomorrowland that gathers all the world’s creators, the one described in this novel.

This novel is so good, that It was mentioned in yet another great Tv show. here a video on youtube about the scene, in which the book was bought to the discussion.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EKX8C6qKuac

Head to Goodreads for a quick overview of this masterpiece. if you want to read it, you can do that either by listening to the free audio version through the following link, if you are into paperback books, the paperback is available through the same link.

Bonus book: Financial Freedom: A Proven Path to All the Money You Will Ever Need by Grant Sabatier

This book is special because it targets the dreams of every millennial, in which we dream of retiring in our late 30’s.

The author breaks down various ways of managing your finances, hence minimize your expenses and maximize your investments.

In this book, the author will help you open your eyes to some ways of income, you wouldn’t know exists otherwise. you can find either the audiobook or the paperback version on Amazon.

Conclusion

In conclusion, self-improvement is a long path, always keep learning, keep applying, and most importantly, make gradual and lasting changes. push yourself out of your comfort zone whenever you have the chance. and remember, you’ll cross that bridge when you get there.